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Saturday, April 17, 2010

The Power of Dreams and Imagination

Growing up I was taught that dreams don't come true which is why they call them dreams this concept that was ingrained deep into my mind caused me to live a dull life until I learned about the Law of Attraction. Law of Attraction taught me the power that dreaming has and that dreams do come true. I started using the Law of Attraction in my life I created vision boards with my girls and it was so much fun. I began to soon find out that dreams do come true and the best part of life is the dream or destination itself but it is the journey to the dream or destination. I have learned that dreaming brings me great joy and sharing those dreams with others brings me even greater joy.

This brings me to my oldest daughter Destinees newest dream. She loves animals and watching anything about them on T.V. and the Internet. Recently she stumbled upon the amazing Bindi Irwin on her new show Jungle Girl on Discover Kids. She had to tell me all about it and how cool Bindi was. She brought me my laptop and sat next to me on her bed and wanted to show me this wonderful little girl that she just fell deeply in love with. As we were looking through YouTube videos and reading all that we could about this amazing little girl Destinee saw a video of her holding a Koala which then become her new passion. She wanted to learn all about them and talked about how cool it will be to hold one. She then told me that she wants to go to Australia and meet Bindi, hold all the animals in her zoo, and have sleep over at her house. It was an awesome feeling to dream with my little girl I began to feel her excitement and joy and dream along with her. We talked about the plane ride, and all the cool places we will see, and the beautiful hotel we will stay in, and how awesome it was going to be to meet such an amazing family and see so many amazing animals and actually get to hold them. I then realized that in that time of dreaming I have connected with my daughter on a level that I never have before. It was beautiful it was complete and utter bliss.



I used to be a mom that didn't support their dreams and would say things like you better start saving or we could never do that at the time I did not know that I was crushing my little girls ability to dream but sense starting this new journey I have learned the power of dreaming and how important it is to dream. I will never say those things again to my girls. I will continue to be a part of their dreams and support their dreams 100%. I love giving them the power to dream and imagination cool and amazing things and most importantly I love seeing them so full of joy. Children don't know doubt, facts, or fears all they know is that they can dream and they are beautiful and that dreaming feels good to them and brings them joy. Taking a child's ability to dream away strips away their true self and authentic power little by little.

Thursday, April 15, 2010

My beautiful Girls

Destinee age six

Is my spontaneous child that gets excited about anything. She is also very independent and out going and she knows what she and why and if you step in her way she will shut down. She is very true to who she is and when she feels that someone is trying to get her to do something that does not align with who she is she get upset and she shuts herself off from the world by being quit and wanting to be left alone. But when she is able to do things that align with who she is she gets so excited, she begins dancing around and singing at the top of her lungs and that is the Destinee we see more and more. While Destinee was in Head start and six months of kindergarten she learned that she had to do what others said no matter how she felt about it and when she was in kindergarten that message was even deeper ingrained when they tried to push her to learn to read even though she wasn't ready and stated that she was not ready. She heard them saying that they wanted to test her for learning disabilities that is when she told me she didn't want to go anymore she I kept her home. Ever sense then she has been different. She is very in tune to how she feels and wants others to know when they are doing something or trying to make her do something that doesn't align with who she is. As parents we are her partner and support her independence and encourage it. Destinee loves life. She loves being outside in the world and being around people of all ages. She is very respectful of others and the world around her. She loves nature and learning new things. Destinee has a lot of common sense and I never had to worry about her doing thing like sticking her finger in sockets or running out in the road. I have always explained things to her even when she was a baby.



Cearra age five

Is my blue eyed wild child. She is very independent, out going, and out spoken. She know what she wants and why and she will tell you. She will let you know when she is upset or doesn't agree especially when it is something that is not aligned with who she truly is. She is a child that you easily compromise with and work out a solution that everyone is happy with. But as soon as you loose your cool or become inpatient she gets hurt and lets you know it. When who she truly is is being supported then she is happy and lovable. She loves to snuggle and laugh. She always has a smile on her face. She loves to discuss things in great detail and loves to ask questions. She has a passion for learning. Cearra has never been to school so she has always loved learning and never needed to learn how to love learning again. She is very observant about the world around her and knows when someone isn't telling the truth and will say something about it. She is very honest and isn't afraid to be honest. She doesn't care what others think, she only cares about what she thinks. She knows she is her own person and doesn't let others tell her she needs to do things their way. She will say I can do it my way and it will still work. She has a lot of common sense and gets the world around her. I have always explained things to her when she was a baby.



Kaley two and a half

Is my loving and cuddly two and a half year old that loves life and gets very excited about new and old things. She is always asking questions about everything around her and loves to talk about anything. She loves animals and nature. She loves being outdoors. She also loves all people but can read people very well and will shy away from people that make her uneasy. She is spunky and knows what she wants and isn't afraid to say no. She has never been spanked or put in time out so she has no idea what that is like and she never will. When she isn't listened to she gets very upset and does everything she can to get you to listen or notice her. She is very true to who she is and if if someone tries to get her to do something that isn't in alignment with that she gets very upset and communicates that very well. She has a lot of common sense. She loves it when people pay attention to her and take the time to listen to her. She does get upset when she is trying to communicate something but others can't understand. We try as her partners in this life to ease her frustrations as much as possible. She rarely throws fits and very happy most of the time. She is always smiling and singing and dancing.

My daughter can't read at age six. SO WHAT!

I have received a lot of flack from family, friends, and strangers because my six year old daughter who would be in first grade if we didn't pull her can't read. They always find this out because they put her on the spot asking her how to spell things. I try to jump in because she is a child that does not like to be put on the spot or quizzed and she knows that they are just quizzing her because we homeschool.It angers me when adults do this I find it unfair and degrading to a child. I received a lot of judgement from one friend saying that I was educationally neglecting my child because she can't read or do what her six year old can do. Well for one not all kids do the same things at the same time and second those lists are only for schools so that they can get their money from the Government. Just because a child can't read yet doesn't mean they never will or that they can't learn because they can't read. Ok first off they learn by asking questions, watching tv, listing to the radio, playing games on the computer or watching videos, video games, books on tape and being out in the world. Following a list set by the Government doesn't make one child any smarter then the other. I have always believed that everyone is smart in their own way and everyone is a genius. Knowledge isn't based on what you memorized it is based on what you know by truly being passionate about it and learning about it. Everyone learns differently and my girls are all hands on independent learners which means they don't like to be taught or have someone standing over them nor do they like to sit at the table and do worksheets or being talked at. They like to learn at their own pace on their own time. It is exactly the same way my husband and I learn. We both struggled deeply in the school system not because we were dumb but because we didn't learn the way they taught us. We were both pushed to read and my husband hates to read and I am just learning to enjoy it again because I to hated any part of it. I learn more when I am not being graded when I am being graded I know that and I stress about the grade instead of learning anything even if it is something I am very passionate about and my girls are the same exact way. My six year old went to two years of Head start and six months of kindergarten and we are still trying to decondition the negativoty that they conditioned her to believe. She is very aware of those around her and can read people around her very well. She knows when people are being real or fake, she knows when someone is lying or telling the truth, and she has learned to research everything that people tell her to create her own opinion. Just because my six year old can't read does not mean she never will and it also doesn't mean she can't learn. Yes reading opens up a whole new world of learning but you can't push a child to do something when they are not ready with good results. I want my girls to be passionate about reading and to love reading and by pushing them to read will not get that result. My six year old is very passionate about riding her two wheel bike because she taught herself she didn't have someone stand along side her or get frustrated at her she just got on one day and went all by herself and she is so proud of that accomplishment. Through learning things in that way she will have self confidence, self respect, self esteem, and drive to learn anything without the fear of failing. She will not fear doing it wrong just because she does it different then the person next to her because she knows that she is unique and her own person. I don't believe that reading shapes a person or makes them more knowledgeable. I also believe that she will learn to read when SHE is ready. Right now reading is not important to her at age six, playing with her friends and being out in the world is important to her. She knows that mom and dad are hear to help her read when she wants something read. She knows that we don't judge her because she can't read and that we support her on her journey. Her passions right now are birds, playing house, riding her bike, digging in the dirt, being out in the world and nature and using her imagination. She always has other things that she is interested in from day to day but those are her main passions at this time in her young life. I will not push my children to do ANYTHING that they don't want to do regardless of what anyone says. They are their own unique people and can make decisions that best fit who they are themselves. They know themselves better then anyone when they are ready. Let children be true to who they are let them say no, let them express themselves how ever they see fit, let them create their own schedules, let them figure out what they like and don't like. Let them be them. They know themselves better then anyone let them be true to who they truly are.

All things perceived as bad are not always bad they could just be exactly what we wanted.

When we perceive something as bad, negative, or something we didn't want in the end it may be just what we wanted. The universe has to rearrange our life in order to give us that which we are asking for and while the universe is rearranging our life we will experience chaos. That is why Abraham always says "nothing is more important then that you feel good". I have found it hard myself to remember this especially when I am in the middle of chaos. I find myself imagining the worst case scenario and worrying to the point of sickness. I have gotten a lot better this last year but it was hard. One thing that has helped when when I begin to worry is that I am in a canoe going down the fastest river in the world and down stream is what I want and upstream is what I don't want and when I feel myself feeling icky I know that I am trying to paddle up that river in my canoe and so I then close my eyes and imagine my self turning my canoe back around and going with the flow of the river instead of fighting against it. This is something that I learned while listening to Abraham. I instantly feel clearer and lighter and a sense of joy. I love the feeling clarity and lightness there is no other feeling like it in the world and this is how we are supposed to feel most of the time. We choose how we feel and we can control our thoughts. It is very easy once we know that we can do it. One thing that has helped when I can feel my thoughts taking over is to close my eyes breath deeply while saying "am I still breathing", this is something that I learned from Eckhart Tolle and has helped me in so many ways. It clears my mind and brings me instant clarity.

Coming from a lifetime of conditioning where I was taught to worry by watching my parents worry about everything it is something that has been very hard for me to overcome. I have also been conditioned to be pessimistic and only look at the fact and make sure all my ducks are in a row before doing anything. This has taught to no longer dream or imagine it has made life very dull and unhappy and I am on the road to changing that. I am more optimistic now and love to dream about life and I now see life as the glass is half full instead of half empty. It is very empowering to overcome conditioning from our childhood.

Last week my hubby wrecked our car and I seen nothing good coming out of this and of course my ego took advantage of my weakened state and started playing worst case scenarios in my head like a movie over and over again I eventually said okay enough and it stopped which brings me back to yes we can control our thoughts and how we let things make us feel. Of course we hated the car and the payment was outrageous and we wanted something bigger for our soon to be family of six with better gas mileage. I always talked and imagined that new car and how nice it will be to do things now that we get better gas mileage. Ever sense my oldest who is six was born I wanted a minivan. I also always imagined my the car that I hatted being totaled to where no one was hurt but it would get paid off. Sure enough in the end we owe very little on the hated car and we got a minivan that gets twice as good mileage as the hated car and it will fit our family perfectly. So this is something that in the beginning the old conditioning comes in and your ego gets into the drivers seat and makes you think that nothing good will come out of this and in the end it is exactly what you wanted. This event has reminded that the universe has to rearrange our lives to give us what we want and that rearranging causes chaos that is why it is very important to remember that nothing is more important then we feel good.

Law of Attraction has brought many great things to me and my family but the thing that has changed us the most is experiencing pure and utter joy. It has taught me to appreciate what I have in my life and never let myself get in a place of lack, it has taught me to always do what feels good and never do what feels bad, it has taught me to no longer try to change others to just except them for who they are and love them regardless, it has taught me how to dream and imagine life as I want it and not be pessimistic, it has taught me that I have control over my life not the world around me, it has taught me that my thoughts both positive and negative create my reality, it has taught me that to take risks and be spontaneous. Law of Attraction has made me a better parent, wife, and person it has showed me to take off the I am a victim glasses and no longer think that when someone does something that I don't like they are doing it to me to make me mad.

My two older girls have learned about making vision boards and we have talked a lot about Law of Attraction in our home it is part of our life now. They love making vision boards and they love taking things off that they have gotten and putting new things on. It teaches them that everything is possible and that money is not an object and that they can be or do anything they want to do or be. They are their own person and for me that is the wonderful thing that I can share with them that they can take with them when they are living out in the world.